Be a WARRIOR not a WORRIER : 9 Tips For Handling Worry

Anxiety Warriors, we totally get this comic, right?! LOL

When a worry comes up say to yourself, “I am a warrior, not a worrier.” Being a worrier is like shooting arrows at yourself. It’s assaulting yourself with painful thoughts and images when they aren’t even happening! Warriors use their arrows not on themselves, but for their goals and dreams!

It’s time to start letting the mind movies of bad things that could happen go. Use your brain power to just focus on the real obstacles that you need to address. Thinking about all the things that could go wrong just zaps all your energy and passion that you can use for better things in life! Channel that energy into writing a novel, making a sculpture, working on a cool business idea… Say, “I’m using this worry energy for something better!”

Also, no amount of worrying makes what is not controllable suddenly controllable. Ruminating about the future doesn’t help you or protect you. It’s wasteful, it’s scary… and it sucks.

Just be a safe, smart, cautious person in the moment. Challenges will come but you can face them with all that you are when they are here. You are making yourself miserable practicing facing them before in your mind (over and over!) when they might not even happen! Say, “I’ll face that challenge when it’s here, if it happens, but I don’t need to face it in my mind.” Don’t be absent from your own life.

Anxiety and worrying might even do the opposite of helping you because they distract you from what’s in front of you and chronic stress can cause health problems! (But don’t start worrying about worrying! LOL How meta!)

You don’t have to believe everything you think. I believe about 20% of what I think. The rest is too stressful! Sometimes you can’t choose your thoughts. They just fire out on their own BUT you can choose your relationship with your thoughts. You can choose to be like, “Oh, hi worry-thought. I don’t believe you. You can stay but I’m not attaching to you. You’re wrong a lot. Have a nice day.” or “OMG! THIS IS PROBABLY GOING TO HAPPEN! AHHHH! LET ME PLAY IT 40 TIMES IN MY MIND AND BELIEVE IT’S GOING TO RUIN MY LIFE!” Which one feels better?

Let the worry go and distract yourself with something positive. Maybe think of a really silly time with a friend where you laughed so hard you peed a little.. or cried a little; some kind of liquid came out of you! You can also say, “I’m not a person who worries about that anymore.” You’ve been a person who worries and stresses about everything in the past, but you can always choose to be who you want to be, not who you’ve been! “I’ve always been a worrier!” Ok, well, you don’t have to keep going like that! Recreate yourself!:)

Either let the worry go/distract or take a positive action that will help you feel less worried such as if you have an exam you’re worried about, stop worrying and study! 🙂 The more worries you are able to let go of, the more your brain stops going down those pathways. You are addicted to worrying. I know it’s hard not to follow a worry down it’s worry path (My boss made a weird face.. I might lose my job.. then my house.. then my cat, Fluffy!) but be strong and don’t follow it. You’re not going to lose Fluffy. The less you go down the worry path the less your brain will. Slowly your brain starts being less prone to worrying. I challenge you to having 7 days of letting go of your worries! If you want, you can have 10 minutes at 5pm daily to worry but that is it! Any other time worries come say, “I can only think about this worry at 5pm for 10 minutes.” Worries don’t help you- they hurt you!

9 Other Ways To Let Worries Go:
1. Take deep breaths and know that all emotions pass

2. Get out of the past and future and just focus on what’s in front of you

3. Ask yourself if your anxious thought is true (“The Work” by Byron Katie is helpful for this)
Remember a time where you were really anxious about something and then it ended up being not a big deal! You’ve been wrong many times before;)

4. Know your mind is overacting to a threat that is not serious. It’s your biology being like, “Oh no! A lion might eat me!” BIG THREAT! Realize that there isn’t a threat and you are ok and safe. Be like, “Brain, thanks for the warning, but I’m not a cave-woman or man who needs to be alert all the time to lions and tigers and bears.” (OH MY!)

5. If you are stressing about something that may happen think about other possibilities. Look at the evidence. “Maybe I will be able to get this work done.” “Maybe I will be a little late but it will be ok.” “Maybe my friend isn’t mad, they are just busy and will text me when they have a minute. Not everyone constantly checks their phone or email.”

6. Know that you don’t have to stop the worry thoughts from HAPPENING, you have to stop yourself from investing in them, believing them, attaching to them. Your thoughts can’t hurt you and they aren’t you. They just go off like a reflex. We all have weird, cray-cray thoughts so don’t worry about your thoughts if they are not what you want to be thinking. Just distract yourself and don’t give them so much weight.

7. Talk to a friend, family member, counselor.

7. Do self-nurturing things like: Funny movie, TV show, Exercise, Bubble Bath

9. If you notice a worry, say out loud, “STOP” and then distract.

**** What helps you guys with worry/anxiety? I would love to hear your suggestions and tips!

Thanks SO much! 🙂 Good luck, warriors! Love you! Rachel

71 thoughts on “Be a WARRIOR not a WORRIER : 9 Tips For Handling Worry

  1. I have been talking about similar things from many points of view. I like your posts and your presentation of them. You help a great many people. 🙂


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  2. This is a fantastic post and you provide great advice! I can really relate to a lot of points you made and reading this post is just what I needed, especially right now. I’m looking forward to reblogging this! Thanks for sharing your advice!

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  3. Really well said! This is such a great blueprint for keeping yourself strong, happy, and moving forward! Oh, and warrior and worrier is a real tongue twister 🙂 I think I improved my linguistic skills just through reading this, haha 🙂 Anyway, awesome post!

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      1. You’re quite welcome. I am sure you are normally pretty busy with a whole lot. If you get a chance feel free to check out my blog. I paid homage to your youtube video and some of what I have written on I have been thanked for doing so. I used to write in all forms when younger and am re learning but there’s a difference between style, experience and the right heart. I am glad if I get a thank you. 🙂 Helping is good.

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  4. I have general anxiety and social anxiety. I am in such a constant state of pandemonium, that it is literally my normal. I don’t even remember a time when I did not have anxiety. The feeling of impending doom, panic attacks, emotional meltdowns, this is what i have lived with for most of my life. I get frustrated some days, because I think I should have a better handle on this by now but the process has been soooo slow and arduous. The intense mood swings, dipping in and out of depression for the last 10 years, it’s been a real party. I know what it’s like to lose friendships, because managing your moods is tough. Still There aren’t enough tears to express my gratitude for the life that I still have… a few years ago this could have been a very different story. Bad chapters, wrong turns, yeah I’ve made them all, now I have a chance to make a different choice, and start over and that is probably the greatest gift I’ve ever gotten.

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  5. great post rach i really can relate i have let the worrying let to chronic stress that caused me health problems the specialist told me my health problem was caused by bipolar stress. its important to learn how to cope and manage anxiety. your example of thinking a friend is mad at you or doesn’t care about you because they don’t return emails is a prime example i thought that but also thought maybe something was going on in her life along with being busy. as my current day problem getting my sleep under control and adjusting to my new medication adjustment. i just try to think of today and am content that in a few months ill likely have everything worked out and just to be patient as recovery and med adjustment periods take time and no need to add worry on top of it.

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  6. This is beautiful, Rachel. Thanks for these wonder words of wisdom. Worry is such a self defeating part of our brains – left over from evolution and survival. Best we put it to better use in this day and age where actual tigers aren’t nipping our behinds. Have a lovely week!

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  7. I have written myself notes that say “YOUR BRAIN IS LYING TO YOU.” For some reason it’s helpful for me to read those – feels more like a 3rd party telling me so, which makes me more likely to believe it…. 🙂

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