Think back to something you did that you feel guilty about. Close your eyes and picture yourself in the situation. Look at your face, your heart… Were you acting out of pain, confusion, or fear? Were you looking for love in all the wrong places? Were you broken, sad, or at a rough point in your life? I bet you were.
You weren’t rubbing your hands together and cackling an evil laugh. Muahahaha You aren’t a monster who wanted to hurt yourself or someone else because that’s your fun hobby. You are a human and humans mess up. Humans make big mistakes. Humans do stupid, hurtful things. Humans are human.
It’s time to stop playing that movie in your mind of the crappy thing you did to “show yourself how bad you are and how much you need to be punished.” It’s time to forgive that broken person who did something they regret. If you haven’t apologized, apologizing is a good idea. If you have apologized, good, now move forward.
Why don’t I want you to keep beating yourself up? Because guilt zaps all this great energy you could use to focus on doing better in the future. It zaps energy you could be using to do nice, helpful things. Making yourself feel guilty just makes you want to do more destructive stuff. It’s counterproductive.
Guilt is toxic to the spirit. It chokes life and life needs to breathe. Yes, learn from your mistakes. No, don’t carry guilt anymore. It’s heavier than an elephant doing weight training. (How cute would an elephant look with a sweatband, though?)
You’re not a bad person and you’re not alone in this feeling. No one talks about the crappy things they’ve done because it’s not good dinner conversation! Lol
“Hey, want to hear the weird, hurtful thing I said when I was 14…”
“Um… No. Let’s just eat ice cream and talk about Orange Is The New Black.”
Even the sweetest people make hurtful mistakes. Look back on what you did and look at your intention. Maybe it was an honest mistake.. Maybe you were uneducated and didn’t know any better.. Maybe you were afraid.. Maybe you were so broke you couldn’t afford the dollar menu at McDonald’s.. (been there!) Maybe someone hurt you so you hurt someone else.. Maybe you didn’t feel loved so you did something negative for attention.. Maybe you didn’t feel accepted so you did something mean to fit in.. Maybe you were doing your best for where you were in life.
Whatever happened it’s time to stop showing it to yourself because beating yourself up is an act of inner violence. It’s time to hug that person who royally messed up and tell them, “It’s OK and let’s work to do better in the future.”
Treat yourself as you would a dear friend. Would you remind them every day of their biggest mistake in life? No! That’s cruel. So why are you doing it to yourself? Being compassionate to yourself is an act of service to God and to the world because inner kindness, becomes outer kindness which becomes world kindness. If you can’t be nice to yourself for yourself, do it for God and for your fellow humans.
You are not a bad person… Unless you did do that evil laugh thing and rubbed your hands together… Muahahahaha
Love you! Rachie