12 Step Program for Mental Illness (Anxiety, Depression, OCD etc)

I’ve always wished that there were a 12-step program equivalent to Alcoholics Anonymous for mental illness. It wasn’t until the other day that I thought, “Oh, I should search Google for one!” I did find a few of these programs, but they didn’t completely resonate with me or highlight what I knew brought me success. I realized I needed to write one myself formulated from my own experiences and research. (Here is one I found online if you want to check it out: Emotions Anonymous)

I’d love to share the one I wrote with you guys! If you like it, feel free to join me in my version of Mental Illness Anonymous OR write your own 12 step program. Mine is more geared towards anxiety, depression and OCD since those are what I’ve struggled with. I’d LOVE for you to share here what your 12-steps are and we can all help each other! Or you can just share one of your helpful steps! Here are mine and I’ll include explanations with all.

1. Today I will: Admit that anxious, depressed, OCD thinking DOESN’T work for me.

Explanation: I think one reason we hang on to anxious, negative thoughts is because we believe on some level they help us. We trick ourselves into thinking that these thoughts somehow protect us from hurt, danger, etc. BUT the thing that we call all attest to is: these thoughts don’t protect/help us.. they hurt us. They rob us from experiencing this beautiful life, one moment at a time. They distract us when people we care about are talking to us/trying to connect with us, they make us feel uncomfortable physical symptoms (and stress leads to so many health problems) and they zap our energy. (Energy we could use to do way cooler things, like create, work, play!) We are not here on earth to attack ourselves all day with mean thoughts and scary images! We are here to use our amazing gifts to serve. We are here to connect. These thoughts don’t serve us or the world and our fellow men and women, they disconnect us. They don’t prevent plane crashes, they just make us experience them in our minds which totally sucks! It’s time to think about unicorns hopping on rainbows and let the pilots do their jobs. You might argue, “Well, my anxious thoughts about losing may job help me keep it!” If you are worried about losing your job, take action instead of worrying. Take steps to do an awesome job at work! Which is more likely to help you keep your job: worry or taking action to do a GREAT job at work? Because of how our brain has evolved, we want to constantly alert ourselves to danger. This used to be helpful because maybe a lion WAS about to attack us back in the stone age. Lions don’t jump out at use anymore, though! When you’re brain is like, “OMG! DANGER! LION!” you can say, “Hi cave-man brain. I am not a cave-man anymore. No need to send me the fear message! I’m safe” or, “This isn’t helping me.” or “I’m not wasting energy on worry and fear.” Fear slows down your “recovery ship.” It’s like rocks on board that you need to throw off so you can sail into the sunset. Evolve the cave-man brain to be a warrior brain!

2. Today I will: Not believe anxious, depressed, OCD thoughts.

Explanation: I know what you are thinking: “Rachel! I can’t control my thoughts! No one can!” I totally agree and that is why I said not to believe them. (or attach to them- not to ruminate on them, indulge them) It’s so frustrating when people tell you, “Just don’t think negatively! Just think positive thoughts!” A huge turning point for me was when I stopped trying to “get rid of negative thoughts.” Self-help gurus would say “Picture yourself walking by a peaceful river.” My mind would picture the river but then it would picture me falling into it. (and I’m not the best swimmer!) :-/ There would be alligators with big sharp teeth! (Oh, the gifts and curses of a super active imagination!) Thinking I couldn’t think negative thoughts made me fear my own thoughts because when I tried to “get rid of them” they just came back at me louder and scarier. My thoughts were like, “Oh you don’t want us?! Well, how about NOWWW!” When I realized that I am not my scary thoughts and that I could witness them from a place that is not affected by thoughts, (which I like to think of as my huge, immune-to-scary-thoughts spirit) I finally found peace. Our thoughts might be wacky, weird, and hurtful, but we don’t have to believe them or attach to them. We are’t our thoughts. I’ve read that our thoughts are like a reflex, just going off all the time like how our eyes just blink on their own! Also, we ALL think and picture weird things. Even a psychologist I know without a mental illness was like, “Oh ya. I think weird things! I picture REALLY weird things!” LOL

Say we have the thought, “I’m an idiot!” We can distract ourselves right away with reasons why we are not an idiot, reasons why we are smart- instead of showing or selves mind-videos of all the times we acted like an idiot! LOL Negative mind videos are so not fun to watch! (I want my money back! LOL This movie of me walking into a telephone poll in front of a hot guy stinks!) This being said, I could not practice this step without the help of my medication. BUT my medication is NOT the answer to everything. I think of my medication as a “flashlight.” Before it I was completely in the dark, hopeless. Everything looked and sounded like pain. It was like the depression fairy came and painted everything with black-hole-paint while I was asleep. (Oh man- sorry- that is a really scary fairytale. Note to self: Don’t publish this for children) I saw only darkness. My medication is the “flashlight” that gave me the ability to feel hope- to see the path ahead clearly. BUT I still need to walk forward. The flashlight doesn’t have legs, I do! I’m the HERO of this super weird fairytale! HAHAHAH I used to believe and hang on to about 80% of my inner dialog. Now I believe about 10% and I’m so much happier. Our minds are so often wrong. Think of a time where your mind told you something that was TOTALLY not true such as, “You’re friend is super mad at you!” and your friend was like, “OMG! I love you so much… I’m not mad at all, I just had a bad day because I didn’t get that scholarship. Sorry I didn’t text you back right away!” Why do you trust your mind implicitly when it’s wrong so much? OCD is a whole other level. My mind likes to tell me really random things like, “Black socks are bad luck! you can’t wear them” and, “You’re curling iron is on and going to burn the house down! Better turn around and check!” I used to do what it said, but then after reading books like “Brain Lock” (highly recommended) I realized that the more I just wore the dang black socks the less my mind would bother me about them. Another system I love that helps you make space between you and your stressful thoughts is Bryon Katie’s THE WORK. It changed my life- super helpful.

3. Today I will: Be kind to myself and kind to others.

Please treat yourself like you would a dear friend. When you hear your thoughts yell mean things at you, say, “Would I EVER say this to my dear friend, Jenny?” (or whoever your friend is) Treat yourself with the same compassion you would an ill friend. How kind is it to show yourself pictures of things that could go wrong in the future or mistakes you’ve made in the past? Not kind at all! In fact, it’s cruel! When I start thinking of something that hurts in the past or something that could go wrong in the future I say (sometimes out loud) “I am not a person who thinks (or believes, indulges) these thoughts anymore because I am being kind to myself now.” I think there’s something powerful about saying, “Hey- I’m not a person who does this anymore!” Who says you can’t recreate yourself as a person who doesn’t hurt themselves? If you think unkind thoughts to yourself, distract yourself with an activity, phone call/conversation, or think of a really silly time with someone who made you laugh until you peed a little.. or cried a little.. some liquid came out of you, ok?! 🙂 I know it’s SUPER hard to not indulge the thought and keep going down that rabbit whole but it’s time to stop. I have a theory (and I’m not qualified to have theories, but, hey, I do) that we are addicted to the chemicals these thoughts produce so we want to go down these pathways in our brain. Our brain is like, “Ooooh, just one more negative thought ice cream sundae! I’m so hungry!” We need to get our brain used to healthy carrot-thoughts. Our brain will be like, “No! Gross!” at first but once it gets used to those healthy kale-thoughts, it starts being like, “Oh ya, give me that green smoothie, baby!” (I make the weirdest analogies- I know! LOL)  It takes so much strength to choose a different pathway but the more we do it, the more our brain learns and goes to the new pathways (this actually has evidence behind it: the book, “Brainlock’ and the book, “The Brain That Changes Itself”) You can also say things like, “I’m not going down this neural pathway in my brain right now, because I’m creating more positive pathways.” That sounded really dorky, but lol it works for nerds like me! Also see, Jill Bolte Taylor’s brilliant ted talk. Her book, “My Stroke Of Insight” talks about things like this. You can also just STOP the thought in its tracks by saying “REWIRE” (I think that is from “Brain Lock”) or just plain old “STOP.” Being kind to others can be hard (especially if they are being nasty) but we never know what someone might be going through, and it’s not our place to judge. Love and kindness always win- towards yourself AND towards others. It feels yucky in us when we are mean or judging someone else. Those are like candy-thoughts. They are tempting and taste good at first but then we feel bad.

4. Today I will: Completely forgive myself and others for all wrong-doing.

So you messed up big time. Guess what? So did I. We all have. We aren’t mean, scary monsters who deserve to be punished! We are just freakin’ human! We all make ridiculous mistakes. Think back on mistakes you continue to “punish” yourself for. Forgive yourself. Completely forgive. When you forgive yourself, you have renewed energy towards doing awesome things (and making LESS mistakes) in the future. Guilt is toxic. It’s MORE rocks on that recovery ship. Throw it off with the “fear rocks.” Apologize if you feel you need to do that. When you made those mistakes, you were either hurting, confused, not educated, or looking for love and approval in all the wrong places. What difficult things were you dealing with that were distracting you from making good choices? Maybe you were abused and then you committed a crime. It’s time to forgive. Maybe you betrayed a friend and broke their trust. It’s time to forgive. It’s also time to change your behavior and not repeat those mistakes. Forgiving yourself will give you the energy to move forward as a better person. As Maya Angelo so wisely said about past mistakes, “I did then what I knew how to do. Now that I know better, I do better.” I used to carry so much guilt for yelling meanly at our exchange student when I was nine for “stealing my homework” which she had not even done. I repeated it in my head and was like, “I’m a horrible person.” In a meditation I looked back on the little girl who yelled at this person. That girl was only 9 and she was hurting. My parents had gotten divorced, I was worried about my mom, and I was confused. I wasn’t evil, I was 9! LOL I’ve done tons of other sucky things but i’ve also done tons of AWESOME things. Why don’t we play the awesome things in our minds more?!

5. Totally I will: Let go and let God. (or a higher power)

God is so much more more powerful than mental illness (of course!) If you don’t believe in God you could say “a higher power” or you could think of the spark of the universe within you that is more powerful than anything! Why are you trying to hold the whole world on your shoulders? You can’t control everything. You can’t control the future. It’s time to let go and let God. It’s time to trust the power that makes the flowers grow and stars shine. When is the last time you made a flower grow?! NOT a chia pet! 😉 Be in the present with God. Let God handle the future. God is way better at it;) You are picturing catastrophes! God is picturing you doing amazing things in the world! 🙂 God is cradling you and you are safe. God wins! I love this Wayne Dyer quote about God: “Good morning, This is God. I will be handling all of your problems today. I will not need your help, so have a miraculous day.”

BUT I think it’s cruel for people to say that you have a mental illness because your faith isn’t big enough, or you didn’t pray hard enough. God does not want us to judge each other like that! It’s not our place. I believe God makes medications and treatments possible. You pray for help, God sends medicine and you’re like, “Hey God! I’m waiting…” and God’s like, “Um, I sent you medicine!” LOL! Also, the devil or demons do not have control of you- your brain chemistry is the problem and you can get treatment for that. God know sometimes we have difficult thoughts that we can’t control, that we don’t want to think. God knows our hearts and sees our actions. God forgives us for all mistakes. You are so precious and perfect to God. You are God’s MASTERPIECE, just the way you are, mental illness included.

6. Today I will: Have great hygiene, self-care, and a tidy environment.

Getting up in the morning as early as you can (after a good night sleep!) and getting dressed and ready for the day right away helps you feel positive and like you can get what you need to accomplished! Even though you may feel like you don’t have the energy to tidy up your living space having an organized space will help you feel more organized in your mind. Also, remember “Your body hears everything your mind says.” Physical health includes being kind in your mind! Stress affects your mind AND stresses out your physical system. Also, who cares that you don’t look like a photo-shopped model (no one does!) You are beautiful in your own ways and the more you live that on the inside the more it shines on the outside! Exercise, eat foods that nourish you, and limit internet and TV (especially weird magazines that portray women in negative ways, the news, etc) If you have some Ben & Jerrys (I love ice cream) don’t worry! You deserve it! Redefine beauty as what it means to you– to me it is strength, kindness, helping others, and joy. It’s NOT a size, shape, or certain look! EW! The medias definition is limiting, hurtful and includes about 2% of people! LAME! Time to say NO to that definition and take your power back!

7. Today I will: do three things to stay connected to friends, family and my community.

Connecting with others brings us lasting joy. We may feel like, “I just want to stay in and binge watch Orange is The New Black with my cat.” Well, that is ok to do for some nights but not all days and all nights. Your mind may tell you, “Stay in with Boo-Boo-Bear, the kitty,” but as we know, our mind doesn’t always have our best interest in mind (wow- that was so meta!) Push yourself to go out and socialize and you will feel better after.

I’ve found so much solace, unity and inspiration connecting with you guys here… And this community and how we lift each other up and share tools is phenomenal. Telling our stories without shame is changing the stigma and creating an amazing movement. BUT we also need to remember to be connected to friends and community outside of social media. I read recently that even though we are the most “connected” that we’ve ever been in history because of the internet, we are also the least happy and the loneliest we’ve ever been. Think of how you can strengthen the relationships that you have outside of social media. Get involved in volunteer organizations, support groups, activity groups.

8. Today I will: Name three things I am grateful for.

Thinking about things we thankful for can really lift our mood. When you have a mental illness, sometimes your mind wants to show you movies in your head of everything bad that has happened or may happen. We have to consciously decide to show ourselves images of wonderful blessings and gifts in our lives. Maybe other people’s brains play half positive and half negative channels and ours sometimes gets stuck on just the negative channel. We need to grab the remote more and focus on the good. CLICK!

9. Today I will: Fully love and accept myself as I am.

You have a mental illness, but that’s ok! I always say, “I have a fabulous life… and a mental illness!” We see people with mental illness portrayed in the media like they are totally incapacitated, crazy, violent (people with mental illness are NO more violent than people without mental illnesses and they are more likely to be VICTIMS of crimes) and can’t function normally. We never see or talk about all the brilliant, fabulous people who made/make epic contributions to society or are wonderful, kind, happy members of their community. (hmm let’s see, Mozart, Beethoven, van Gough, Emily Dickinson, Lincoln, we can go ON and ON) Fully accept yourself for who you are. You have an illness, but you are NOT your illness. You are SO much more. Also, it’s time to let go of all of the shame, guilt, and mistakes you’ve made and just freaking love yourself. Shame is like a storm and you are sailing into the sunset on that recovery ship! REMEMBER?! I would have NEVER, EVER said this years ago but today I wouldn’t change that I have a mental illness. It has propelled me further than I could ever imagine. For me, this beautiful Camus quote is true:
In the depth of winter
I finally found that there lie within me
An invincible summer.

10. Today I will: Take three steps towards a life goal.

I know the idea of accomplishing something huge like finishing that college degree can seem super overwhelming. I dropped out of college and finished later online. I decided a while back I wanted to get a masters in music ed. I started looking at the application requirements and it seemed like just too daunting a process. BUT when I broke the application into tiny steps that I did one at a time, those steps kept adding up and adding up until all the requirements were done. Don’t look at your dream as “a blank canvas that you have to finish a work of art on right now!!!” Look at your dream as “a blank canvas that you paint on, one stroke at a time.” Maybe today you will paint the grass… or the sun… 🙂 I used to say, “No way!” and give up if something was way too many detailed steps. I panicking when I thought about how big the task was and all it entailed. Mark Twain said,“The secret of getting ahead is getting started. The secret of getting started is breaking your complex overwhelming tasks into small manageable tasks, and starting on the first one.” Take something you’d really like to accomplish and do three small steps per day towards that goal! When you get things done, even if they are small tasks, you feel proud and good about yourself! In undergrad due to the untreated mental illness one semester I got all Fs. Last semester at a competitive grad school I got a 4.0. You can change your story.

Ask yourself: What is my purpose? What is my mission? Who do I want to help? I’m really looking forward to volunteering in the fall with awesome kids every Saturday— I know that helping others brings me more joy than any success, award or adulation could ever bring me. Compliments and “likes” bring us a quick high that doesn’t sustain us. Meaningful work towards a goal and helping others brings us a sustaining joy. As Victor Frankel wrote, we need purpose and meaning in our lives. It’s critical. What organization can you volunteer with? What friend can you send a surprise “thank-you for being a great friend” email? Our acts of kindness don’t need to be huge feats, and small gestures of love and kindness can have huge ripple effects. As Rumi said,
“You were born with potential.
You were born with goodness and trust. You were born with ideals and dreams. You were born with greatness.
You were born with wings.
You are not meant for crawling, so don’t.
You have wings.
Learn to use them and fly.”

11. Today I will: Not compare myself to others.

The mind loves to play the comparison game, like “Oh look at Katy Joyington and her perfect family on facebook. She has everything. Her baby is so happy” Well, guess what? Katy has struggles too, she just doesn’t show them on facebook. Her baby was up at 2am screaming. I heard the phrase recently at a conference, “Compare and despair.” When we compare we feel bad because if we have less we feel inadequate and if we have more we feel a little bad, too! No more comparing- time to just live your own fabulous life! Get OUT of other people’s lives and INTO your own! What are you doing in their story while your story sits there waiting for the next awesome chapter?

12. Today I will: Not try to be perfect with the 12 steps, just do my absolute best!

No being mean to yourself if you aren’t able to do the 12 steps one day. If you can do one step, you get a SUPER DUPER BIG HUG AND CONGRATULATIONS!!!!! If you do half a step, SAME! If you try one step and it doesn’t work: SAME AND AWESOME JOB TRYING! 🙂

Here are the 12 steps together without the explanations:

1. Today I will: Admit that anxious, depressed, OCD thinking DOESN’T work for me.
2. Today I will: Not believe anxious, depressed, OCD thoughts.
3. Today I will: Be kind to myself and kind to others.
4. Today I will: Completely forgive myself and others for all wrong-doing.
5. Totally I will: Let go and let God. (or a higher power)
6. Today I will: Have great hygiene, self-care, and a tidy environment
7. Today I will: Stay connected.
8. Today I will: Name three things I am grateful for.
9. Today I will: Fully love and accept myself as I am.
10. Today I will: Take three steps towards a life goal.
11.Today I will: Not compare myself to others. 
12.Today I will: Not try to be perfect with the 12 steps, just do my absolute best! 

Who is interested in doing the 12-step program together? Let’s all introduce ourselves! 

What are you 12 steps or a few steps you can share with us? I’d LOVE, LOVE, TRIPLE LOVE TO HEAR!

Love you big time! Rachie

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93 thoughts on “12 Step Program for Mental Illness (Anxiety, Depression, OCD etc)

  1. Absolutely, positively, amazing and pure genius! I loved this post and can’t wait to reblog it and happily join you in this program. There is so many things I want to say. However, I don’t want this comment to turn into a book, 😀.

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      1. I’ve been thinking about that. I suppose we could start a post Emotions Anonymous, in the same way others do the Meet & Greet posts. However, how to keep it posting each day so that it stays on top of everyone’s reader, I’m unclear on how to do that.

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  2. While I don’t feel anxiety is a mental health illness (I believe it’s a mental health issue), I do agree with your twelve step program and I think it’s great! These are such great tips. Anxiety, depression, OCD, etc. are NOT helpful, they are harmful and they can make you focus on the negative in life instead of the positive. Your second step is also incredibly important. With anxiety sometimes seeming so strong and overwhelming, we have to remember NOT to believe that anxiety is stronger than us or that we are weak. Our negative thoughts are just that, thoughts, not the truth! Being kind to others AND ourselves is extremely important as well, especially when there are times when others aren’t kind to us and we have to depend on ourselves. Thank you for this wonderful post, Rachel. I’m definitely reblogging it!

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    1. Thanks SO much! I agree about anxiety- but I think it depends on the level of severity. I think everyone has anxiety to some level and it’s normal! 🙂 such wisdom here and love your thoughts! ☺️ thanks so much for this lovely reaction!

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  3. I thought about adding Emotions Anonymous (EA group) to my main menu under the Motivation button. Now trying to find out if there is anyway that particular menu item can be open daily and have set dates (maybe once a week) when it is open to all for say a hour or two, where everyone can participate with stories, questions, comments, etc.. Does that make sense?

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      1. We could create a page on Facebook and link Twitter and Google+. I’m not extremely active on Facebook but creating a group page would make me more active. I don’t like the drama that others bring to Facebook and I feel like the group should a safe haven for all who want to join.

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  4. Thank yuo for the follow, I could not find the “About” for you, so I’ll say I reciprocated because I like what you are doing.

    Awesome work, keep it up! Maybe I’ll join you on EA, but for now, I can’t get past the threshold,

    Hope I can keep you entertained. Currently a YA kind of romance. (Protagonist is roughly 23 years old and a Junior in a univesity)

    I’ll attempt some of these steps. As the last one states, I cannot do all of them. Not quite talented or smert enuf fer that.

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  5. I think this is outstanding! Really helpful and obviously very meaningful to you. I love all of the ideas you threw in here, and I love what you said at the end about just trying and going at your own pace on these steps, and feeling success in that!

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  6. Very creative and brilliant idea. People with mental illness differ in the quantity but not the quality of their feelings. The difference between mental illness and 12 step programs is that while the principles apply universally, 12 steps programs only work for people who are powerless over something. But, it is unrealistic to abstain from thoughts and feelings altogether. I believe the only choice we have is how we respond to our thoughts and feelings. Your writing addresses that beautifully! Thank you!

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    1. Thanks soooooo much! Yes- it is very complicated because we can’t just cut out thoughts and feelings as you pointed out- I think why I wrote it is because I really respect the hard work and accountability of AA/the clear steps/focus on recovery— I want something to aim for, you know? That being said, today I did only ok at the steps! Hahah like I said- it’s a process— and like you also said- we can control or work on our reaction to the thoughts but we can’t control our thoughts 100%! Thanks tons for your reply!

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  7. I love this idea! I’m definitely going to start implementing it in my life – though I need to tweak somethings so they’re specific to me (like changing #5 to “Today I will start believing I’m as much of a badass as God knows I am.”) Thank you for this.
    Heather Thomas

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  8. Wow wow wow!! That’s wonderful! This made me smile. I definitely have BIG problems with forgiving myself and not comparing myself. It’s just so easy to look at someone and say “well, I don’t have hair like that” or “they see their best friend so much more often than me”. I try to tell myself that it doesn’t matter, but they just keep digging deeper. It also leads to jealousy and ungratefulness. Ugh. Any specific tips on how exactly to stop comparing myself to others?

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    1. I’m not sure it will help with the comparing yourself to others, but I often find myself blaming myself for something (that either I had no control over or I didn’t even do). Deciding that I had enough of that, every time I’d start, I’d interject with “Not my circus, not my monkeys.”

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    2. Thanks tons for the awesome comment! 🙂 I totally relate with the comparison game- the thing is – it doesn’t get you anywhere- it doesn’t help you, it just causes you pain. We all have gifts and talents that make us unique- I’d focus on putting energy into those – not into comparing. (I’m giving this advice to myself, too! I have same problem) I don’t look like a model (at all lol) but my fiancé finds me attractive for so many reasons (the way I care for people, my musical talent, my smile) he wouldn’t want someone prettier without those gifts- when I start comparing I tell myself I’m also not seeing the whole picture- yes, someone might look amazing in a bikini but that’s not where our value lies. Also- jealously feels so yucky inside. When I get jealous I try to breathe deeply and remind myself of things I’m grateful for and what I like about myself! I also think of feelings like jealousy as waves that will pass. I ask myself something I’ve read is good to ask about thoughts “does this though bring me peace of stress?” Also- I remind myself that we each have our own path and how far I’ve come from where I’ve been. Muah! Big hugs!

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  9. Connection. This is what it’s all about. The journey feels harder, the struggle feels more difficult, when you think it’s just you alone on the road but when someone tells you that they’ve got you, that they are going to walk along side you, while you try to figure out all the crazy and insane stuff, well then suddenly you feel like you can face any and everything that comes your way. Warriors don’t fight alone, they always have an army next to them. And even if they fight alone, there’s always someone whose watching out for them from a distance. i think you’ve started a movement here 🙂 btw there is a youtuber called Kati Morton, I don’t know if your familiar with her but she blogs about mental health all the time and has a huge online community. Sometines she does collaborations with people. I think she would be really interested in We Have Apples, if she knew about it and it would be a great way to get the word out about the show.

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  10. I loved reading your 12 steps and so glad I read to the end. I’m having a bit of a low mood day and I have had a number of low moods the past fortnight, so for now I will take your advice and when I’m feeling a bit better (probably when hormones level out!) I will add my steps here :).

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    1. I dont know you, but im sorry you are in a down-swing. When i have bad days that pile up i try to convince myself that it isnt going to last forever.. Just do the next right thing. I hope the down days pass!!

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      1. That’s good advice Misty. I like the affirmation “every day in every way, I am getting better and better” and “no pain is permanent” and “this too shall pass” “this won’t last forever” as you said- is comforting.

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      2. Thanks Misty. As far as I can work out, my hormones are a bit all over the place- every two weeks I struggle more than the other times. This week I was quite low and wanting to be alone, yet I was much better when I had company- weird! 🙂 My four-year-old can be quite intense and so I feel less drained and more at ease when I can share the load. Thanks for the kind thoughts- I’m taking it easy the next few days and hopefully I will improve.

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      3. I hear ya. For right now my worst week is period week, and I’m trying to work through my emotional outbursts and put things into perspective, consider the factors… Yeahhhh I’m upset about *blahblahblah* but I understand that PMS is currently intensifying any emotion I have! Its a battle. I have a son at home and he doesn’t seem to understand that I need a “time-out” haha

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      4. If you work out how to get time out from your son let me know lol. I use a DVD for an hour sometimes- he loves DVDs so I keep them for when I need the time out and for when he is tired.

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  11. Loved the 12 steps, as they are full of amazing insights and create a helpful recipe for living well! Your wisdom and self -awareness certainly surpasses your age. Without struggle there is no progress and you have clearly made great strides!:)

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    1. Aw, thanks so much! I really, really appreciate that! I think since I had the depression and anxiety I worked so tirelessly to figure out how to be at peace when some people my age could just coast along! Ive read way too many self help books! Lol!!! That’s why I wouldn’t trade the problems now, because they’ve helped me grow into who I am! 😊 your comment really made my day and was a beautiful reminder! Thanks soooo much!

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  12. I love the 12 steps! I am going to use them and add move/exercise/get outside to #6 self-care. I’m finding that on days I have the lowest mood and the highest number of ruminations are days I didn’t walk, run, whatever to get my heart rate up.

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      1. I will let you know how it goes. I am going to print them out too. I’ve had a tough week and I think I need the visual. AW-Anxiety Warriors, beating fears one day at a time. I’m feeling stronger already!

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    1. Wow- you are so brave and inspiring- I know that place- so frightening and exhausting! how are you now? I need to print this out and start following it- One thing I know I’m improving on is not letting my anxious thoughts go down their paths now- I just say “stop” and force myself to think something kind- I also ask myself is the thought it true and don’t believe and attach to stressful thoughts. I’ve read that the more we stop our brain from following the thoughts the more it doesn’t go there on its own. I also take medication which allows me to actually work on the thoughts. It helps me to remind myself anxiety is not something that can hurt me, it’s a feeling that will pass. So much love your way, warrior!

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      1. Better, but it’s actually made it very hard for me to find a job because I’m so damn nervous that I’ll get bullied again by some authority figure :/ I’ve always been worried that I worry too much and I recently opened up to my boyfriend about it but I’m not really sure what to do about it. I’ve helped a lot of friends but when it comes down to myself I’m like a headless chicken haha Sending love your way too, warrior! (:

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  13. Reblogged this on TheSamanthaWiltshire and commented:
    This really is an amazing post. I myself, used to repeat over and over in my head ‘You are a warrior’ to stop myself from breaking down on the way to work. I hated it, and I hated how badly I sometimes got treated. It wasn’t every day. But everyday I’d worry in case it was going to be the day I’d have to bite my lip, choke back tears and hide my face from customers. I hope this helps any of my readers (:

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