Don’t Believe Everything You Think 

I used to believe my inner dialog, but believing all my wacky thoughts made me feel like a super cray-cray mess! I also thought my thoughts were who I am. 😁😝
I tried to only think positive thoughts like the self help books were saying to do, but negative thoughts kept involuntarily coming in. Rawr! They were relentless and when I resisted them they just grew bigger and scarier! Rawr! Rawr! Rawr!
My thought: “I’m am calm and happy..” 😊
Another thought: “No, you’re not! You feel like crap!” 😁

I realized I can’t control my thoughts (who can? Don’t picture a pink elephant! See, I bet you just did!) but I can control if I BELIEVE my thoughts or not. If I don’t believe and attach to the negative thoughts, they don’t make me feel like a super sad, lost kitten. 😿
Say I meet a new person and they aren’t very warm, my thoughts might say, “She doesn’t like you.” 😕 If I believe that, it makes me feel bad about myself. Then later I say to someone who knows the new person,”I feel like she didn’t like me,” and they say, “Oh, she loved you- she is just sad because her and her boyfriend broke up this morning.” See how our thoughts just make up their own ideas and stories about what they think is true? Believing the stressful thoughts just makes us miserable. Can you think of a time where you had a stressful thought that your mind was sure was true and then it was super off? Our thoughts aren’t always helpful 🙍🏼
Our thoughts go off like a reflex, just like how our eyes blink on their own. 👀 I’ve read that we have over 60,000 thoughts per day! Some of them are happy, some are weird, some are crazy, some are true, some are light, some are dark, and some are way off- so we don’t have to believe or attach to all of them! I hardly believe anything I think anymore! Lol I also don’t think I am my thoughts. (Warning: super hippy girl about to come out) I have found a place inside me that is not affected by the thoughts, which I call my spirit. I remind myself that my spirit is so powerful and strong that no thought can affect it.
I found a method that has really helped me with stressful thoughts that I’d love to share with you. It’s call “The Work” by Byron Katie. I’ll summarize and post a few things from her website here, but I recommend getting her book, “Loving What Is?” If you can’t afford it (trust me, I get that) you can use free resources on her website or YouTube her and see “The Work” in action. I’m not affiliated with it and don’t get anything for sharing it (except happiness that it might help you) so don’t worry about that- just sharing an awesome tool with my peops that really changed my life! 💜🙋🏼

When you have a stressful thought – even if you really think is true, you ask these questions about the thought:
Is it true? (Yes or no. If no, move to 3.)
Can you absolutely know that it’s true? (Yes or no.)

How do you react, what happens, when you believe that thought?

Who would you be without the thought?

Then you turn the thought around to the opposite and find three reasons why the opposite thought could be true.

From her site:

A statement can be turned around to the self, to the other, and to the opposite (and sometimes to “my thinking,” when that feels appropriate).

This is the site where you can learn more about the method:

http://thework.com/do-work

I’d love to hear what you have found is helpful when you have negative, stressful thoughts! What works for you? Love you bunches! 💖💖💖

Rachel 

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28 thoughts on “Don’t Believe Everything You Think 

  1. I can relate to so much of this! I find that being aware of your negativity gives you great power. You can choose to believe it or you can choose to accept the thought and move forward.

    You sound like a genuinely beautiful soul – Great post 😊

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    1. AW thanks SO much!!! I’m so glad people “get” my posts! hahhah Someone else understands! 🙂 I like the idea of accepting the thought (not fighting it) and moving forward~ You are a beautiful soul as well! XO

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  2. Great post! I think the suggestions you posted are great ideas. I do a lot of negative talking to myself. I heard a psychologist refer to it as “stinky think”. I do a lot of stinky think and am working on changing that. I think the method of turning it to the opposite will be a great tool. Thank you!

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  3. First let me start of by saying you are an amazing writer!! You truly write from the heart and don’t hold back as many people do. Early on in my life I had the pleasure of reading a book “The Power of Positive Thinking”. We have a choice each day when we awake wether to see life as the Glass half full or Half empty. Try for the next 3 weeks when you get up in the morning look in the mirror and say 5 nice things about yourself. I have read several of your post and Yes, there are cruel people in the world that live by the saying “I will put your candle out, so mine looks brighter”, but remember NO ONE can ever rob you of who you are.

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    1. Whoops! Sent without finishing by accident- thank-you SO much for this lovely reply- it made my day! I’ll have go check out that book and I LOVE the idea of saying 5 positive things about yourself in morning! I love your blog and can’t wait to read more! Whoooo! So much wisdom there! 🙂

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  4. I can totally relate to what you’re talking about. Above method looks effective too. Might I also suggest you Eckhart Tolle’s book “A New Earth”? (If you haven’t already read it, in which case ignore rest of this comment 🙂 )

    The book talks about that little voice in our head — what it is & why it speaks. There are also his YouTube videos if you want a quick look. Though, books are more effective.

    Yes, finishing the entire book is a bit lengthy process but if it connects to you, it can truly have life-altering effect. I speak from experience! 🙂

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    1. Hey there! Thanks so much for the kind reply to my post! I read his first book “the power of now” and it definitely resonated with me! I’ll have to read “a new earth” thanks tons for the recommendation!!!

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  5. Hey. When I eventually pulled myself up out of bed this morning (I had been hiding away under the warm covers for a while) I found that I hated myself. Who I am, what I am, where I am.
    Days like this I don’t have the mental capacity to help myself much, so I rely on close friends. And today I received a message back “You are loved, even when you don’t love yourself”. That is what works for me. Those days when I believe my thoughts too much.

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    1. I’m so glad you received that message and realized that was what could help in that moment. So true. A really beautiful message. We hear so much “love yourself” but it’s so hard implement- for many of us it’s a process — I like the message you were sent! Thanks so much for sharing!

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  6. hmm, that one’s not really easy to answer. What helped me was growing stronger mentally (it’s a long story and would certainly be too much for a comment, but maybe I’ll write about it one day on my English blog). Today for example I had a nasty thought telling me that I’m just a no one and that I don’t matter because I’m too stupid to be accepted. Thanks to the fact that I’ve grown stronger mentally I was able to let that thought go, just like a car that you watch driving on a road.

    Many thanks for following my German blog! I’m always happy when someone stumbles over that one (happens very very seldom). I hope you enjoy it 🙂
    Please keep up this blog! It’s very very cool that you started it and kept it going with so many wonderful and helpful posts 🙂

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    1. Oh wow!! I love the analogy you used, about letting a thought go like a car on road! That’s awesome! I think when we let the thoughts go like that it gets easier and easier because we strengthen those good pathways in the brain! So happy to have found and followed you!

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